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Next sign of a troubled relationship is that you never talk to each other about problems. This is a major problem for many relationships that can cause huge conflicts. If you are unable to discuss your issues like a rational adult and work towards a solution then you are in definite trouble. Even if you do not discuss small problems, but do still discuss larger problems then you are definitely still headed towards problems.
Another major warning sign is that you are happier when you and your spouse are separated. For example, if you are happier while your spouse is on a trip for a week for business or even a weekend then you are possibly heading towards signs of trouble. You should enjoy the time spent with your spouse more than you enjoy the time separated. If the opposite is true in your relationship then you are heading towards serious trouble.
Another serious sign of trouble is if either you, your spouse or even both of you has cheated. This is one of the biggest signs of trouble. Cheating is never an accident, but rather a symptom that there is trouble in a marriage. If you have been cheated on, you can usually never fully heal from the pain, and if you are the spouse that cheated, your spouse is usually never able to fully forgive you. This can drive a huge wedge into the relationship quite quickly.
Finally, if you and your spouse have completely different goals and dreams for life you are potentially headed for trouble. This could mean a lot of things, such as during your retirement you want to live in Montana, while your spouse would rather spend retirement in Florida. Or even, you want to pursue your career for another 10 years before having children, while your spouse is pushing towards children in the immediate future. This is just a few examples of how radically different goals can cause huge problems in a relationship.
While no couple has a perfect answer for when their relationship is over, the warning signs generally give a great advance notice. If you do not want your relationship to be over, then take the warning signs seriously and start making some changes. Work with your partner to repair the damage that has already been done.
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