Marriage And Separation Advice

Violence in the home can affect people of all classes and races and violence can happen at any stage of the relationship or marriage. In the majority of cases of violence during marriage, it is the women that is the victim and the man that is the abuser. In very rare instances is it the other way around, however there have been cases where the man has been on the receiving end of domestic violence. However, in all cases of domestic violence it is essential to remember that is not acceptable. Violence in the home is a common reason for divorce and there are different types of domestic violence. Any of the types below are acceptable reasons for divorce.

Types of domestic violence that leads to divorce

These are the most common types of domestic violence

• Physical which includes hitting, slapping, punching, hair pulling or pinching

• Sexual violence which may include assault or actually rape

• Physiological which may include any type of verbal threat, phone calls, intimidation or bullying

• Financial controlling behaviour which may include limiting the finances of another

• Controlling behaviour overall which may include keeping one captive in the home with threats

Domestic violence in a marriage with children

If there are children in a marriage and there is domestic violence in the home towards one parent, this can lead to the child/children suffering from physical abuse. In this case, you may want to consider separation and divorce as soon as possible for the sake of children.

• Children may intervene during an episode of domestic violence which may result in them becoming accidentally hurt

• They may copy the violent behaviour that is seen by the parent

• Illnesses related to stress can occur

• Confidence may be lost and children may blame themselves for what is happening

Resources for domestic violence and divorce

Resources for those in the UK

• If you or your children are in immediate danger from your partner either in marriage or after divorce then you should not hesitate to contact the police using the emergency number 999

• You may also want to contact the NSPCC which is open 24 hours on 0808 800 5000 or find information on their website www.nspcc.org.uk

• Women’s aid is a national charity which provides help and support you can visit their website at www.womensaid.org.uk

• www.divorceaid.co.uk/legal/dom-violence.htm - Legal advice on legal issues associated with domestic violence

Resources for those in the USA

• National Domestic hotline in the USA can be called on 1-800-799-7233

• If you are in immediate danger from an estranged partner then call 911
  
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• Domestic Violence in a Divorce

Resources for domestic violence and custody issues

• Information and advice on child custody issues when there is a history of domestic violence.

• www.legalmomentum.org/assets/pdfs/dv11resources-1.pdf - A legal resource kit that is available is PDF format and which provides general information, regarding domestic violence, divorce and child custody issues.

• www.docstoc.com/docs/8380469/Domestic-Violence-and-Child-Custody - Document explaining child custody issues after divorce when there is a domestic violence background.

Resources for worldwide domestic violence and divorce

• www1.umn.edu/humanrts/svaw/domestic/laws/regional.htm – Resources for those residing in the EU

• www.austdvclearinghouse.unsw.edu.au/ - Resources for those who live in Australia

• www.apwld.org/collation_of_laws.htm - A collection of links for domestic violence for various parts of the world

• www.ndvh.org/ - National Domestic Violence hotline