"Even well-meaning people can resort to child support tricks which can be quite damaging to both parties even after the divorce."
Divorce can be quite a metaphorical battle ground for both men and women. It's no wonder that people who go through contentious divorces can battle it out for several years before they come to a resolution. Angry spouses can resort to dirty divorce tactics that they learn from several sources. Believe it or not, some lawyers may actually advise them to do this because they are effective, or they could get the information from friends who went through something similar in their divorce, or divorce self-help books that offer divorce advice for women and men who want to get more out of the divorce.
Sometimes they could just be making wrong decisions because they are in a conflicted state of mind. Here are a few of the common dirty divorce tricks and tactics that your spouse can employ and you need to be prepared for:
1. Empty your joint bank accounts and safety deposit box.
2. Steal or sell the furniture you own and make off with the money.
3. Call the cops on you and make false allegations that you're abusing them.
4. Make false allegations that you're abusing the children.
5. Turn your children against you by telling them lies.
6. File motions and use legal means to delay the hearing, effectively tying you up in court and making you spend money on legal fees until you run out of funds.
7. Pressure you to move out of the marital home by making your life unbearable to live there somehow, then claim that you have abandoned your family by moving out.
8. Use common or mutual friends to inadvertently spy on you.
9. Prevent your children from accepting phonecalls from you.
10. Provoke you to anger, causing you to lose your cool and lash out at your spouse.
A lot of people can certainly get creative when it comes to one upping their soon to be ex spouses in court. Knowing the risks and being prepared for them, coupled with sound legal advice can help you get through the divorce case.
It would help if you can itemize your assets and liabilities by making a list of everything. If you have assets that are difficult to value such as a business, or real estate property, it would be best to have professionals help you out with it. Even well-meaning people can resort to child support tricks which can be quite damaging to both parties even after the divorce. If you're paying child support, it's best to have the check received and signed appropriately and keep a good record of when and how much you gave. If your spouse is the type who will likely call the police on you to accuse you of abuse, you may also want to carry a small audio recorder on your person so that you can prove that you're not hurting him/her.
Above all, maintain your cool even when provoked. If you give in and lash out at your spouse, that sort of thing follows you around. It could be used against you in court to make you look bad, and even after the divorce, word could go around that you lost your cool and affect your relationship with family members and mutual friends.
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