Life After Divorce

You may have overheard someone mentioning a divorce wedding ring. You probably thought that you misheard them, or you wondered what in the world they were talking about. Let me be the first to tell you, there is such a thing as a divorce wedding ring. Actually, it is more commonly known as a divorce ring. Divorce rings have become a popular new trend to signify the end of a troubled relationship, and the beginning of a fresh, new start. Divorce rings may sound like an odd concept, but they have already helped many divorcees to move on.

Divorce is generally a painful, emotional process that leaves many people feeling empty inside. A marriage is supposed to last forever. Unfortunately, about half of all marriages end in divorce. Rather than letting the emotional turmoil overcome them, many people are choosing to celebrate divorce instead. A divorce ring reminds the wearer of their newfound freedom, and enables them to transition to their new life with a sense of hope and strength.

Divorce rings, just like wedding rings, are personal and should reflect the owner's personality and dreams. Unlike wedding rings, divorce rings usually have a break or groove through them; they are not a continuous circle like a wedding ring. Many jewelers now carry divorce wedding rings. They are sometimes sold under the name transition rings. Some jewelers offer to create a divorce or transition ring designed to your specifications. Creating your own design may help you through the divorce process. Divorce rings can offer a sense of peace and closure.

Divorce rings started gaining popularity when a letter was published on Dear Abby. A 45 year old woman from North Carolina wrote to Dear Abby, because she was wondering whether she should continue wearing a divorce ring. Her daughters and friends thought it was a great idea and supported her decision. However, her ex-husband and his family felt that she was promoting divorce. That was not her intention at all. She had married her high school sweetheart. Over the course of their marriage, she heard rumors that her husband was cheating on her. She never had proof of any extra-marital affairs on the part of her husband; until one day when she went to his office. His secretary informed her that her husband went to lunch with his wife! She went to the restaurant and found her husband intimately embracing the other woman, sharing food, kissing, and speaking softly to one another. When her husband came home that night, she confronted him. He tried to deny it, and slapped his wife when she called him a liar. Her husband packed and left that night. She filed for divorce the next day. When she went to a local pawnshop to sell her wedding and engagement rings, the owner asked her if she was going to buy a divorce ring. She ended up searching online retailers and found the perfect divorce ring. She wears it proudly, and it provides her comfort. Her ex-husband's family thinks that it is awful, but her own family and friends think it is a wonderful idea. Dear Abby suggests that she should wear the ring, if it makes her feel good. However, she does caution her that wearing it on her wedding ring finger will make others assume she is married. Perhaps one day when she is ready to begin a relationship again, she should take it off. Until then, why not proudly display something that symbolizes hope?

Divorce rings offer comfort during a difficult time. Some people worry that wearing a ring will hinder the grieving process, and cause more emotional distress. They fear that wearing a ring causes a person to feel stuck in the past. Divorce ring wearers say otherwise. They feel that they are able to transition to their new lives in a less painful way; they have clarity in their choices and hope for their future. Divorce rings designs can symbolize moving forward, while reminding the wearer to stay strong. Both men and women choose to wear divorce rings. Lovely styles can be found for both genders, and prices range from fairly inexpensive to how-much-do-you-want-spend-expensive. For most people, divorce rings are not about the price tag; they are about celebrating a bright future full of happiness, freedom, and strength.

Maybe a divorce ring is not for you. How about a wedding ring coffin? No, I'm not kidding. Wedding ring coffins are gaining popularity as well. They too offer a way of moving on. Wedding ring coffin sellers promote their coffins as a way to bury the past and move on to the future. Wedding ring coffins actually look like a miniature coffin, and may come with a message on a metal plaque. Common messages include: "Rest in Peace," "I Do… Not," "Six feet isn't deep enough," and other more positive messages regarding the future. You can have your own message engraved on a plaque as well. Whether you think a Wedding Ring Coffin is the coolest gadget of the day, or the weirdest thing of the year, more and more people are choosing to use a Wedding Ring Coffin after their divorce. You may just see a Wedding Ring Coffin at the next Divorce Party you attend. Hey, if it works for them, who are we to judge?

The purpose of divorce rings and ring coffins is to promote a positive outlook for the future. They remind us that there is life after love lost. Divorces cause us to be vulnerable, broken-hearted, and often full of misery. Any small thing, like a divorce ring or wedding ring coffin, that can bring happiness during this painful time ought to be used. Divorce rings help to put a positive spin on an otherwise disheartening time. If you are worried about others thinking that you're married, try wearing the ring on your right hand instead.

Here are additional resources you might be interested in:

Divorce Recovery and Coping with Life After Divorce
How to Throw a Divorce Party and Who to Invite