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Anybody who's going through a divorce can be a victim of dirty divorce tactics. The sad thing about this is that these tactics can have a long term effect on you and your children's lives. You can lose custody of your children, suffer from a tarnished reputation, or struggle with financial difficulties and debts for a long time because of a prolonged legal battle for your divorce.
Here are five free divorce advice for those who want to avoid being victimised by dirty tactics in court:
1. Always keep your emotions in check - This is one of the hardest advice to give simply because getting a divorce itself is already an emotional ordeal to go through. Many people who are dealing with the thought of a failed marriage are on edge and easy to provoke. Add to that the financial strain plus the prospect of losing custody of your children, if you're looking at a custody battle. However, losing your temper will only give your ex more ammunition against you in court. One of the most crucial mistakes you can do during divorce is give in to the urge to send a nasty email, text message, or leave an angry voicemail. Keep it cool and when you're tempted to retaliate or respond to provocation, remember that it could cost you more than you may expect.
2. Know when to stop reasoning with your ex - You've tried to reason with your spouse but the divorce is proving more contentious than you expected. At this point, you have to concede that the best person to negotiate and talk with the other party is your divorce lawyer. Your lawyer can spot suspicious and dirty divorce tactics a mile off. It would do well to listen to him/her and let him/her do his/her job.
3. Make sure you are financially prepared for the divorce - Set money aside for the retainer fee of your lawyer. An ugly divorce can drag on and on. Sometimes the spouse with more money uses delaying tactics to make the divorce drag on in court and deplete the finances of their ex. In other words, they make you spend a lot of money on legal fees. Shore up your finances by making sure you have spousal support (when applicable), or looking for a divorce lawyer who will agree to have the retainer fee on installment basis. If you're relying solely on spousal support, it may be time to try and get a job or other means of income.
4. Be careful who you confide in - This is especially true if you and your ex have mutual friends. Manipulative people who employ dirty tricks in divorce will have no qualms using your unsuspecting friends as sources of information about you. It's best to keep a few details of your personal and financial life away from other people at the moment as they can be used (with or without their knowledge) to spy on you.
5. Be proactive - Get really involved with your divorce and don't just ask your lawyer to do everything for you. Stay on top of the situation and educate yourself about things that you need to know during a divorce.
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