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My Parents are Getting Divorced, what can I do? |
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 Divorce can be very difficult for children of all ages, but it is important to remember that you are not the cause of their decision to get a divorce. Both of your parents will likely want to continue being a part of your life. It is important you make your own needs known. It is important to realize this is a very difficult time for them as well. Be honest about your feelings and ask any questions you may have. If possible ask them with both parents present.
Make sure your parents know that you love and respect both of them. Therefore you won’t be taking sides in the matter. Let them know you are very willing to discuss things with them, but they can’t use you to discuss matters for them instead of interacting with each other. This is simply too much of a burden for a child to have to take on. If either one of your parents takes the opportunity to talk badly about the absent parent, stop them in their tracks.
They need to realize you love both of them equally and you are uncomfortable with such discussions.
While it can be difficult adjusting to all the changes that take place surrounding a divorce, it is very possible to enjoy the time you do have with each parent. You may find there are some negative things that have stopped occurring since the divorce. Make sure your parents know how much you appreciate it when they do try to get along for a special occasion.
If you find you are struggling to cope with the divorce ask your parents to look into counseling. This can be a joint effort involving you, your siblings, and your parents. You may prefer individual counseling without the rest of your family involved. Some communities have support groups for children of divorce. This is a great way to learn about the similar experiences of other children as well as gain support.
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Children and Divorce 
